Rodici Therapies : Confidence Building : Hypnotherapy, Build your confidence, Improve self esteem

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Confidence building

For the majority of us confidence is very important. Depending, on the amount of confidence we lack will depend on how much the individual will suffer or miss out on opportunities because they don’t have the confidence within them to go ahead and deal with the situation

What is confidence?

Confidence is freedom from doubt when you believe in yourself and your abilities. For example "after that failure he lost his confidence"; or "she spoke with authority." These are two different examples of confidence.

Where does low self esteem come from?

Self Esteem is a part of our self image, which develops during our childhood and is the combination of our own natural personality features together with the messages and influences we receive from those around us, which show us how we should act and feel about ourselves and situations as they happen.

Self esteem & childhood

People who suffer low self esteem may have experienced one or more of the following examples in their childhood from their parents or other important figures such as teachers and other family members:

Unrealistic or high expectations of what you should achieve.

    Experience of being compared negatively to others or labelled in a negative way so that it
        feels like you can never be good enough or that it is difficult to act in a way which seeks
        approval.

    Parents or other primary guardians who found it difficult to give appropriate warmth, love
        and acceptance to you or who abused you in one or more ways (emotionally, psychologically,
        sexually, physically, or through neglect).

Parents who were too preoccupied with their own issues and concerns to be able to pay
sufficient attention to your needs or who seemed to favor another sibling

All of the above could contribute to low self esteem. It is also possible to develop low self esteem as an adult as well if for example you experience a traumatic event, have been rejected in some way or have been abused either sexually physically or mentally.

Can you improve self esteem?

Yes absolutely. I ask that you are willing to make the changes for yourself, and that you need to be willing to work with me. I am not able to wave a wand and make things better, but I can give you the tools to help you understand yourself or the particular incident that you have come here for help. There are techniques for gradually improving yourself image, self confidence and self esteem.

How to deal with low self confidence & self esteem

Give yourself credit when you achieve something you set out to do

Don't be too hard on yourself!

Try to recognize occasions where you have done something you are proud of.

Make a list of qualities and abilities that you have - if you have difficulty in thinking of them,
ask a trusted friend what they see as being the characteristics they like about you.

Keep the list to hand so that you can remind yourself of it at times when you feel self critical

    Start to keep a thoughts diary recording both any positive thoughts that you have and any
        negative thoughts that you have about yourself or things you have or haven't done which
        you feel guilty about or regret.

    When you have negative thoughts, remind yourself of any positive ones to counterbalance
        them. If you find there aren't many positive thoughts then ask yourself how you can keep the
        negative thoughts in perspective.

    Avoid comparing yourself to others if possible - you are valuable as a human being in
        your own right and for your unique qualities. No one is perfect - and if you were, you might be
        rather boring!

Is Hypnotherapy for me?

If you make the choice to change and want the change more than the opposing issue, then I would say yes. However, everything can be discussed in greater detail in your consultation. You are free to ask as many questions as you wish, and even after the consultation if you choose not to continue that is your choice which is also respected. If you choose to continue I am here to assist you, to listen without judging and to show you how to use the tools that you already have.